Many people confuse depression with “feeling down,” but it is more serious than simply feeling sad or upset. Depression may express itself in a variety of ways, depending on the person experiencing it, and not everyone will have every symptom. Here is how you know you are depressed in a relationship
1. Changes in sleep habits:
Both hypersomnia, a desire to sleep too much, and insomnia, difficulty falling or staying asleep, can be symptoms of depression. These symptoms can have a significant impact on romantic relationships. In the case of hypersomnia, a partner’s desire to sleep excessively may feel like s/he is avoiding or rejecting you. For partners who live together, insomnia may also feel like avoidance or rejection, as sleeping together is likely one way of expressing intimacy.
2. Feelings of hopelessness:
If you notice you or your partner seem to respond negatively to most things and lacks motivation, inquire about underlying feelings. Hopelessness can sap your motivation, and everything feels pointless when you can’t imagine circumstances ever improving. This may lead to disinterest in most activities.
3. Performance at work or school:
One way to recognize whether someone may be depressed is to examine his or her performance at work or school. If you see signs of grades or work performance deteriorating, an increase in the stress the person feels about school or work, or it seems like the person is putting in less effort than usual, talk to him or her.
4. Examine your sex life:
Depression often kills a person’s sex drive, as well as pleasure in many other activities that s/he used to enjoy. If your sex life with your partner has changed dramatically from how it usually is, it may be a sign of depression.
5. Isolation, which contributes to loneliness:
Lack of energy and motivation often leads to depressed people feeling more lonely and isolated. With less energy and diminishing experiences of pleasure, depressed people tend to opt out of social activities. Friends and family begin to reach out less, anticipating being turned down. This becomes a worsening cycle.