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5 Dangers That Comes From Overprotecting Your Children

Protecting is synonymous with care, ensuring that suffering will not affect the protected. Superproteger results from the mistaken view of difficulty. It arises from the fear that the adult has of the child suffering; the fear that she will not be able to deal with a particular situation and the need to donate as much as a responsible protector.

The problem is that overprotection does not protect, it does not rid of risks, it does not prevent suffering and it brings much more harm than protection.

If you practice any of these items, better review after all the main goal is the well-being of your beloved. Look at some attitudes that can have negative consequences for the child are below:

1. Exempting
He is not responsible for anything. If he did not like the food, it was the fault of the one who prepared it; if he took low grades it is the fault of the one who taught; if he fell and hurt the fault of those around him. He is never to blame.

How does this affect you?
You are not only overprotective, you are mainly forming an unreal human being because we are all responsible for something. He will not feel useful or capable. He will have low self-esteem because even to err he had the capacity, always err would be a normal factor of life for him. It will be insecure too, because in your absence, how will he defend himself?

2. Not warning you
“Look what I do with my school friends, I hit them like that.” A five-year-old boy smiled as he boasted to his father. The father smiled and listened to his son.

“No, I’m not sharing my bike with anyone.” Said a seven-year-old girl being approached by her colleague on the playground. She preferred to keep her bicycle and stop playing instead of having to share it with her friend. What would you as a mother do? You decide to keep quite and then say nothing.

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How does this affect you?
Who loves cares, who loves educates, who loves correct! At what point in life have we been taught that we should not correct our children? This is what the father and mother of the above examples did. If would not do our children any good if we fail to help them in the best way possible to correct their wrong notion about life. Life is all about giving and taking. We never own anything forever.

We are creating people without limits, with an anesthetized conscience, citizens apathetic to the need of the other. Time or other these characteristics will turn against such creature and their creator.

3. Keeping it in a cage
Even though he is already a teenager, he can not go to school alone because it is dangerous to walk alone for a few meters, to cross busy public roads or to find someone who is unkind on the way. Teach the way, walk the avenue with him a few times, show what is good and what is not, trust the teachings you have passed on and the choices he would make on the way to adulthood.

How does this affect you?
Insecurity, shyness, low self-esteem, introspection, all characteristics that a teenager can acquire, mainly by the excessive care of the parents. You have to take care! Do not suffocate. Afraid of the comments of his friends, he is locked in himself; with shame, because he does not feel capable he becomes increasingly timid and insecure.

4. Forbidding All
Playing in the sand cannot be possible because of bacteria, running on the street is also dangerous. In the amusement park, you feel he should just sit and watch because you fear he would get injured. Afraid that he has his own negative experiences you surrounded him in every way so that he did not take the necessary risks. He conveyed his fears as a resource to keep him safe.

How does this affect you?
He does not live his own feelings. He does not enjoy his own experiences. He learned that taking risk is wrong. That fear is a forbidden sign and that you should not face it. It is frightening, but we convey teachings in the simplest ways and we affect our children in a grandiose way with such small attitudes.

5. Being very cautious
At a routine appointment at the pediatrician, a little boy just above a year old was complaining, but he never said why. The doctor asked why he was complaining. The mother spoke up for the boy that he probably needed the toy of his elder brother. The doctor went ahead to correct the mother that it is wrong to speak or a child that could express him/herself. This is a dire characteristic of parents today. They say why and what the child needs when he/ she can definitely speak. Instead, listen and then draw your conclusions and not the other way round.

How does this affect you?
We do this all the time. For example, when initiating speech acquisition, the child stutters any syllable with the letter a and soon supposes that she wants water. The child grows and our behavior does not change. In addition to offering what they have not even realized they want or need, we also carry out our wills through our children. What a danger! The great risk of this behavior is the formation of believing individuals that everything comes ready. The clothes appear clean in the closet, the money is available all the time, there are no sacrifices or limits, everything will be ready when he simply wishes. This is a grave danger for your child.

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